If you are using toys, apply the same rules as in other types of ass
play – start small and build up slowly
and gently, stopping if things hurt. Forcing things could risk tearing
sphincter muscles. Use lots of lube.
If you are playing for a while, reapply lube when things get dry. If
you are using really big toys, make sure that they can bend, as your
colon turns a corner about eight inches in from your anus. Really thick
toys can damage muscles and lead to problems with bowel control later
in life. Dildos and toys with flared bases are safer as there is less
risk that they will end up stuck inside you. Don’t be afraid to
go to the hospital if you do get anything stuck inside. Avoid using
bottles or anything breakable.
sex toys can pass body fluids, including HIV-infected
blood, from one person to another. Cover your toys with condoms
and change these if the toy is going into a different butt, or clean
them with one part bleach to ten parts soapy water.
What is a Dildo?
There are a lot of different ideas out there about what dildos really
are. There is general agreement that a non-vibrating device, resembling
a penis in shape, size, and overall appearance, is a dildo. Some people
include vibrating devices in that definition. Some might exclude penis
prosthetic aids, also sometimes called "extensions." Some
authorities include devices designed for anal penetration (butt plugs),
while others do not.
Early dildos were made of stone, wood, leather, or pottery. Of these,
leather dildos with a fairly solid filler of cotton rag remain popular
with some people.
usually incorporating a steel spring for stiffness, became available
in the 1940s. This of course wasn't the most satisfying or safe arrangement
when the rubber finally cracked and came apart causing potential for
serious injury from cuts from the spring. Later, PVC dildos with softer
PVC filler became popular. Most of the inexpensive dildos sold today
are made this way.
steel dildos have been made, and have a small following, especially
in BDSM circles. They are not particularly comfortable because they
do not flex. In the 1990s, silicone rubber dildos became more popular,
a trend that has continued as the price has come down. These are easier
to keep clean and do not have the characteristic plastic aroma of PVC.
They were expensive when introduced but are now reasonably priced, making
them an excellent choice for the first-time user. More recently, dildos
made of borosilicate glass (Pyrex) have come on the market. They are
expensive, and inflexible, but have a following. Other materials have
been used as well.
In addition to anal penetration, dildos have fetishistic value as well,
and some guys use them in other ways, running them over the skin during
foreplay for example. If of appropriate sizes, they can be used for
oral penetration or a sort of artificial fellatio.
Some larger dildos are intended for visual appeal only and should not
be used for penetration.
Your Dildo to Yourself
Dildos can transmit
disease between users in the same way as other forms of sexual contact,
and should not be shared among users where this is a concern. This is
particularly true for dildos made of porous or micro-porous materials,
such as most soft synthetics. On the other hand, smooth stainless steel
or Pyrex dildos are easier to clean, non-porous, and can be more easily
sanitized, either chemically or by boiling. This is not meant to say
that more than one person should use any unprotected dildo without being
sanitized. An effective remedy is to use a fresh condom on the dildo.
or metal dildos may be easier to sanitize, softer materials better align
with the curves in your rectum so you don't damage protective mucosal
linings… remember the linings are there naturally as a barrier
Stuck, It’s Stuck!"
Dildos without a flanged base or other mechanism to control the depth
of insertion should not be used anally, because they can be difficult
to retrieve without medical assistance. If a dildo or other sex toy
does go up inside you beyond reach, squat and bear down slightly: the
object will probably come down on its own. If it doesn't appear within
an hour seek medical attention from an emergency room. Take a friend;
even though the ER has seen it all before, there’s something to
having a little support in the face of the inevitable snickering nurse.
Crucial to pleasure with dildos is having an understanding of the curves
and byways of the rectum. Most of the lower part of the rectum runs
toward the belly button, however about three inches in, it takes a curve
in the opposite direction, toward your back. If you're in the right
position and relaxed, the curve straightens out somewhat to allow free
passage. If you ignore your curvature, the dildo you are trying to put
up yourself will run smack into the wall. Ouch!
the discomfort associated with dildo use comes from trying to force
your way by this wall, rather than readjusting to get it in more easily.
With enough forcing, you can get a tear, better known as a fissure,
or a deeply unpleasant pain. It's much better to figure out how to line
things up so they can move in more smoothly.
thing about dildo use is that you control the pace. Go as slowly as
you need to, try to breathe deeply and easily, and dispense with the
idea that you have to get it "all the way in." If you encounter
resistance at the first curve, try pulling out a little, adjusting the
angle, and moving in again. When you find an angle that works, make
a mental note of it for future use. Some men use dildos with suction
cup bases that stick to the wall, finding it hotter and easier to move
their bodies into the dildo than the other way around, leaving their
hands free for better masturbation.
As you experience
a new sensation, try to figure out if it is uncomfortable or simply
unfamiliar. If you are unable to get it in at all, find it too painful,
or feel worried that you are going to inadvertently move your bowels,
try relaxing techniques and whether moving in or out, move slowly.
Often, as you insert something longer than a finger into your ass, your
internal sphincter tightens just as it would if some fecal matter or
gas were tickling it from above. The result is the familiar feeling
of having to move your bowels. Feelings, as the old self-help saying
goes, are not facts.
through the muscle's reflexive tightening can help loosen it, as can
the realization that you are not really about to move your bowels and
so you don't need to be as tense. From light stroking of the external
anal area to impaling yourself on a life-size dildo, there's pleasure
there somewhere. Take the time!
There are double-ended dildos of various shapes, making for twice the
fun when used with a partner. Then there are double dildos, with different-sized
shafts pointing in the same direction. There are even inflatable dildos!
Dildos with balls, a flared base, or a suction cup make for easier control
and less fear of losing it inside your rectum.
Deciding on a dildo comes down to three things: shape, material, and
color. You want something that looks and feels good. Most dildos are
made of rubber. There are different types of rubber with their own unique
look and feel. The least expensive dildos are made of a plain rubber.
These toys are great for experimenting and can be just what you're looking
for. Jelly rubber is another kind of rubber that is still affordable,
slightly lighter, and comes in far more interesting colors.
rubber is the highest quality rubber used for making dildos. It retains
body heat more than plain rubber, it's more resilient, non-porous, and
can be boiled in water to sterilize. Additionally, silicone conducts
vibrations really nicely - just place a vibrator against the base for
great effect. They are available in a greater range of shapes and colors,
and are all hand-made by small manufacturers.
Hard plastic dildos have a look and feel all their own. The benefits
are the ease with which you can reach certain spots (since the toy doesn't
bend when inserted), as well as easy cleaning. Some folks find these
toys too hard, or say that they only play with them for short periods
of time. For beginners, the rule is to start small; going big will probably
only send you back to the store next week, and they're neither cheap
from the book Men Like Us by Daniel Wolfe and the following websites: